If you are wondering why I haven’t posted anything lately it’s because I’ve been going back and forth with a post that I wrote and I have gotten some feedback saying not to post it. I will take the advice and be the better person. This is MY blog. My blog is not for bashing, calling people out (even though they need to be) or insulting people (directly). These are my stories and my experiences. If you don’t like it..there is a red X in the upper right hang corner. Click it.
That is the end of that for now. Moving on..
Now what I really wanted to talk about was an experience I went through and why it went all wrong.
Around summer time I was seeing someone who seemed perfect. He knew all the right things to say at all the right times. Now I’ve mentioned before on here about how I want to meet “Prince Charming” or whatever bullshit I say. But this guy was the fit for it. He was not crazy and had no psycho exes either which is a plus.
It was simple. We met. He liked me. I liked him. And we starting seeing each other. And all of a sudden it hit me..I was like done. I didn’t realize until after the fact that I left him what the issue was. There was no chase.
Doesn’t that sound awful? I know I’m a terrible person, at least I realize it. He fit the definition of perfect..and I tossed him out like a rag doll in less than a month. Obviously I’ve been feeling bad about this for a couple of months cause I know he deserves someone great. That someone was just not me. I told my friend the other night that I don’t like someone who is “easy” to get…and not the way that you are thinking. I think the people I’m attracted to most and want to get to know more..are the people who AREN’T throwing themselves at me. We never fought or bickered everything was normal and boring. I think that the relationship is stronger when there is bickering and arguing. It shows that you’re being honest and true. It was very annoying to always say the right things and do the right things in his eyes. I’m not perfect, and I don’t want someone else to pretend that I am.
I feel like a jerk though. I complain about someone fantastic not coming along and I leave this dude at the drop of a hat. I was kinda an asshole about it too. Over the phone…I know, how highschool of me?
Now I even made a post a couple weeks ago about how you shouldn’t chase anything but drinks and dreams. Well I think I have a different viewpoint on it now.
Now this statement if controversial to me. Because I think the chase is a detrimental part of a relationship.
One side of me believes that no one should have to chase anyone for love and the other part of me says that it’s important to have a little chase or else there was no work done at all for the relationship. It keeps you on your toes.
I’m not saying I would chase a guy around for months..and I don’t think that anyone should. At some point that person might just be playing games the whole time. There is a certain point where you need to look at yourself and the relationship and decipher whether it’s worth still chasing or you are ready to turn in your badge. Everyone is different. Some people have a very low tolerance level and don’t chase at all. I’m guessing they are more mature people who are ready to find a partner for the rest of their life. They don’t have time for games or chasing. I imagine I’ll hit that point someday.
I think that when people care about the relationship they will chase and won’t let them walk away. A way of finding out if somebody cares..is to try moving on and see what they do about it. Shows there true character and if they really care.
For now, I’ll go with the flow. And when I think I’m done, then I’m done.