So you probably don’t think I have the credentials to write about some rules in dating, but I think that these are the key parts into ensuring your man (or woman if that’s your thing) doesn’t run for the hills.
Here are my simple rules:
1. Don’t over think
Over thinking every situation and detail drives guys nuts. This is a fault of mine as well so if other people are like this then I completely understand. I think the reason why I do it though is only because I’m confused. If I understand the relationship and what the intentions are then I wouldn’t be over thinking everything so much, understand? Guys like to throw the word “crazy” around, which I hate. But they believe that us chicks get together and just sit around for hours and hours to talk about them and over analyze the situation but the truth is, we usually only talk to our friends momentarily about it and then do all the over thinking inside our own head 😉
2. Make your intentions clear from the beginning
If you just want some booty, say it.
That sounds terrible but some people are looking for the same thing. I also stress this because I hate being confused and not knowing where I stand with the relationship. I’m not telling you to remind me every day that you want to be with me. I’m just simply saying don’t play with my mind. Don’t tell me that you are looking for a relationship but really you don’t want to be serious at all.
3. Don’t share personal information too quick
This might seem a little contradicting, BUT I feel like if you share personal information too quickly, you get attached and then all of a sudden the guy/girl wasn’t on the same page as you and your all alone. I think this rule kind of just protects your heart.
4. Don’t give it up too quick
I’ve written an entire post about this. Refresh? Click here The Cookie
Bottom line: It’s not Halloween anymore, stop dishing out the candy..
5. Don’t put all of your time into it
Again, if you put all your time and energy into the relationship, you won’t be able to concentrate on anything else. This is a terrible problem if the guy/girl doesn’t want the same thing as you.
6. Play the game (in a GOOD way)
Don’t always be available, if you’re available it’s not fun anymore. Sometimes there needs to be a “chase”. I know that if someone throws themselves at me and there is no chase, I start pushing away. Then I completely rid myself of the relationship. I’m not saying lie but some people tend to forget about their friends when they are in a relationship, so some friend time will not hurt. It will let him/her appreciate the time you have together as well.
7. Be yourself
If you are yourself from the beginning then there is no need for pretending when you get farther into the relationship. Plus, wouldn’t you feel so much better if someone was into you simply because of YOU not because you are trying to be someone else?
8. Don’t lie
For obvious reasons. Don’t lie. Plain & Simple. Then you don’t have to remember your lies. You might not want to volunteer information that you were arrested last summer for being a drunken slob BUT that doesn’t mean you have to say “I’ve never been arrested before, I’m a perfect prince.”
I feel like they all intertwine with one another…
If the guy lies then he’s not telling the truth about his intentions. If he doesn’t tell the truth about his intentions then she over thinks so she starts putting all of her time and energy into over thinking about it. She then shares personal information with him thinking that maybe the two need to “connect” more. Then she gives up the goods cause she doesn’t want him to run away. Now shes completely NOT being herself.
Did I over think that? 😉
That’s just the way I see it